Category Archive for: ‘Bullying’
Bullying at Work (Part 8): Defending Co-workers from Bullies
In all the previous posts on bullying the discussion has been about what to do if you are the target of a workplace bully. This last post focuses on doing what you can to help others when they are targets. While researching workplace bullying, I discovered The Bullying Circle, created by Dan Olweus. The model was developed for schools, but …
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Bullying at Work (Part 7): Time to Leave
The toughest part of being bullied is the feeling that you have no control over the situation. The bully has you under his thumb and there is no escape. You have options Feeling stuck is normal. It’s also not true. In previous posts we’ve examined the options you have in dealing with the bully. Here’s a reminder. Change your thinking. …
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Bullying at Work (Part 6): Report the Behavior
Getting a workplace bully to leave you alone can be a terribly difficult task. In spite of your best efforts to ignore her or even directly asking her to knock it off, she just won’t let up. In these situations it’s time to reach out for some help. You’ve got to report the bully. Who can help? Before thinking about …
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Bullying at Work (Part 5): Confront the Bully
Imagine a bully is targeting you at work. You’ve tried ignoring him. That didn’t work. You tried thinking about the situation in different ways so that he wouldn’t get under your skin. That has become exhausting. This bully is way over the line. It’s time to step up your response. It’s time to confront the bully. Before you go storming …
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Bullying at Work (Part 4): Change Your Thinking
Did you know that emotions aren’t a direct result of what happens to us, but rather a consequence of the beliefs and thoughts about what happens to us? This A-B-C idea comes from Rational Emotive Therapy. Graphically, it looks like this. To deal with a bully, most of us believe we have to get the bully to change his or …
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Bullying at Work (Part 3): Response Options
Employees need to know what to do when faced with a bully at work. In my workshop on bullying, I spend the majority of the time helping participants understand their options, make the best choice, and then maximize the effectiveness of their chosen approach. The Options An employee who is being bullied has five fundamental response options: Do nothing. Continue …
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